How to talk about suicide
Talking about thoughts of suicide, a suicide attempt or a suicide death can feel very difficult. It’s a topic that often carries stigma. But open communication can save lives.
Talking about suicide can feel difficult. You might worry you’ll say the wrong thing. Research has shown that talking about suicide with someone doesn’t increase the chances that they will think about it. Instead, it can provide an opportunity for relief and support.
However, when we talk about thoughts of suicide, a suicide attempt or a suicide death, it’s important to use proper terms. Using the proper language can help reduce stigma and increase the chances that someone we care about will get help.
Ask directly and compassionately
When discussing suicide, it’s important to be direct while showing care. Asking questions like, “Are you thinking about suicide?” or “Have you been thinking about ending your life?” invites honesty and demonstrates concern. Avoid vague language or euphemisms, as they can downplay the seriousness of the situation.
Listen without judgment
Create a supportive environment by listening with empathy and without judgment. Avoid dismissive or minimizing statements like, “You just need to think positive.” Instead, validate their feelings by saying, “That sounds incredibly difficult. I’m here to listen and help.”
The Words We Use Matter
Listen to Foundation 2 Crisis Services CEO Emily Blomme talk about the importance of using proper language when talking about suicide in an episode of “When Life Gets Tough,” the Foundation 2 Crisis Services podcast.
Use stigma-free language
Be mindful of the words you use. Avoid the terms “committed suicide,” which implies blame or criminality. Instead, use phrases such as “died by suicide” or “took their own life.” Similarly, do not refer to suicide attempts as “successful,” “unsuccessful” or “failed,” as these terms can be harmful and inappropriate.
Share information thoughtfully
If discussing a suicide or attempt, avoid sharing specific details about the method. This can be activating for individuals who may be struggling. Refrain from oversimplifying the reasons behind a suicide by attributing it to a single event, such as a breakup or job loss. Suicide is complex and often results from a combination of factors, including mental health challenges, stress and other risk factors. Research shows that about 46% of individuals who die by suicide have a known mental health condition, but other factors also contribute.
By using direct, sensitive language and approaching conversations about suicide with care, you can reduce stigma, encourage openness and provide meaningful support to those who may be struggling.
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